“God gave women intuition and feminity. Used properly, the combination easily jumbles the brain of any man I’ve ever met” – Farrah Fawcett
Ever heard this – “A woman’s intuition is never wrong”? Well, she could be so many things but she is never wrong especially when her sixth sense is involved.
If there is anything I sometimes dearly pay for, it’s whenever I ignore my gut feeling. I can feel the tug in my heart and can hear the alarm bells ringing in my head but sometimes I just ignore these, hoping that whatever it is I am feeling is wrong and I pray against it….but still it happens.
“Why?” I wonder… “Is it that prayer doesn’t work anymore or am I not just praying right?”
I failed to realize that disregarding or neglecting my gut feeling is me foolishly ignoring the tell-tale signs God was showing me or better yet his cool quiet voice as He kept telling me I was headed the wrong direction and I always paid for my disobedience.
Suffice it to say that when we pray, most times, we don’t just get clear-cut answers. Instead, God takes us by the hand and guides us to the direction we should take but often times, we choose to let go of His hand and go the opposite direction and then when things don’t work out the way we hoped, we conclude that God doesn’t love us or isn’t caring.
How wrong we are.
Whenever I ignore my gut feeling, I just as much pay for it.
I was just as deaf and blind to the signs in my last relationship. It was pretty obvious that we were headed nowhere but there I was hoping that it would work.
As Dean Koontz puts it, “Intuition is seeing with the soul.”
I was just scared of starting all over again and was foolishly willing to “settle” when God had a much better plan and gift for me.
Caring so much about what people thought of me gave them power over me. I could clearly see the handwriting on the wall that the relationship was headed for the rocks but I was still hoping against hope that I was wrong. How foolish and gullible I was.
And when it eventually came to an end, I still took it terribly and was deeply hurt. I felt trampled on. I felt like I was rolled over. However, after the initial rage, I couldn’t help but acknowledge in all humility, with my tail in between my legs, that I was the cause of my issues.
There I was, praying hard that the relationship worked but God knew we were not meant for each other and clearly showed me the signs which I deliberately ignored. At the end of the day, I was to blame for my own hurt and pains because of my foolish delusions.
As C. JoyBell C. says, “Our bodies have five senses: touch, smell, taste, sight, hearing. But not to be overlooked are the senses of our souls: intuition, peace, foresight, trust, empathy. The differences between people lie in their use of these senses; most people don’t know anything about the inner senses while a few people rely on them just as they rely on their physical senses, and in fact probably even more.”
Today, true love found me when I least expected it and I can assure you it is more beautiful than I ever imagined or hoped for and the greatest thing of all is that this love overcame all of my fears.
If only I had listened and not let fear of the unknown consume me….. If only I had understood and realized that truly letting go and allowing God have His way is ALWAYS AND ALWAYS BEST FOR ME, I guess I could have been spared the hurt and pain I endured then ………but again,…… I am glad I went through it.
It was an experience for me (though not a fun one) but of course, I am a better person for it today. I sure learnt my lesson and now better understand the power and importance of intuition but most importantly, I now understand the truth behind the words, “A WOMAN’S INTUITION IS NEVER WRONG”.
Intuition is the language in which the heart speaks that reason may not stand to comprehend. It is always on the alert and ready to set off the alarm bells should something feel off. It is more or less the first line of defense of a woman’s feelings, guarding and protecting her from hurt.
Abraham Hicks says,“When something feels off, it is”.
The heart sees what the mind most times cannot comprehend and it sends a message of warning to woman to be careful; to take a step back; to pause awhile; not to take the plunge just yet but we ignore all these warnings and at the end, we soak our pillows with tears while we plot revenge in our hearts.
“Don’t try to comprehend with your mind. Your minds are very limited. Use your intuition.” ― Madeleine L’Engle
Life really has so many complexities and intricacies especially where emotions are involved. Woman sometimes lose her sense of reasoning and “just loves” which is a great error on her part.
Now, you may wonder, “If a woman’s gut feeling is never wrong, then how come she still acts naïve or gullible?”
Well, saying a woman could be naïve or gullible is not wrong especially when she is “in love”. She stubbornly refuses to heed the tingling of her sixth sense or continuous tugging on her heart when something is not right. She strives to see the good in people even in the worst of man and give him benefit of doubt.
She wants to believe that he can be better. Even if it kills her to be in that relationship, no matter the gravity of misdeeds the man has done to her, she continuously tells herself, “I love him”, “He didn’t mean to hit me; he didn’t mean to cheat on me; he will change” etc.
While sometimes her courage in the face of her rejected love is admired, she forgets there is a thin line between irrationality and congruity. She believes in the best in people even if they turn around and stab her in the back. She believes somewhere in that evil heart, there is a little bit of good and she strives to reach that speck of good in the heap of evil and bring it out to overshadow the evil.
All these she does while ignoring her sixth sense which has being tingling severely. Man knowing this about her, sometimes uses this against her again and again.
He says, “She will forgive me no matter what I do. “She loves me”, “She won’t find out if I cheat on her once. She believes too much in me and knows I can’t hurt her”, “She is very naïve and gullible” “She wouldn’t know”, etc.
These and many other thoughts go through the mind of man as he again and again takes undue advantage of the love and honesty of a woman.
Paying for the crime of ignoring her sixth sense, she gets hurt again and again but still she believes in man but when she can’t take it anymore, she switches off her humanity and becomes a vixen.
Her soft, trusting, gentle and loving heart, she exchanges for a cold, bitter, suspicious and crude heart. Hurting people becomes her purpose depending on how deeply hurt she has been.
She launches her rocket of hurt and pain back at man. She becomes unstoppable and is on a mission tagged “operation all men must pay”. She sees all men as the same and hates them. She gets so angry at man and by all means wants to hurt him too.
She is consumed with rage and fury. The thought of loving man again, the thought of giving her heart to another sounds irrational and absurd to her.
She can no longer understand what it means to love. Love seems like a fairy tale to her and she beats herself up for ever believing in it; for ever believing she could have it.
She detests herself for it. When a woman acts like a monster, she doesn’t just up and do it. She has been pushed to the breaking point. When a woman acts in a horrendous and awful manner, like she doesn’t have a heart, something made her like that.
Woman is really delicate and very erratic. She bruises easily and if she gets bruised again and again, she is blinded by pain and enters a state where she can do and undo. She gives in to her dark side and that loving, adorable, gorgeous beautiful angel you once had as a wife, girlfriend, or lover becomes unrecognizable as she allows herself to be swallowed up in darkness.
She forgets who she really is. She forgets that she is stronger than these hurts and pains. She forgets that switching off her humanity and giving up on love is never the answer.
She forgets that as the quote says, “A successful woman is one who can build a firm foundation with the bricks others have thrown at her”.
Dearest, I can understand how hurt you are but the first mistake you made is ignoring your intuitive sense. We have often times made this mistake but trading your beautiful self for an evil queen is never the solution.
We ought to always learn from our mistakes and not to give into defeat. Hurt and evil is like a vicious circle. It keeps going round and round until you break it.
Love and reason must go hand-in-hand. It just has to be that way. Love is never blind but on the contrary. It sees clearly. One painful fact is that our hearts are wicked.
Hurting people comes more easily to us than loving them…… It’s just like…uhhh…doing evil comes easily to us than doing good.
We were each given our intellect or if you like, cognitive faculty for a reason. One can’t just take a plunge into the deep without reason. Life should be taken one step at a time.
So sweetie, it is great to love. It is great to trust. It is awesome to want to give your heart to another and love wholly and completely. It is great to do all these but in all you do, NEVER, NEVER, EVER ignore your intuitive sense. God gave it to you for a reason. Your sixth sense is like a guiding light and it will never lead you wrong.
“When you reach the end of what you should know, you will be at the beginning of what you should sense.” ― Kahlil Gibran
When your sixth sense gives you a warning signal, heed the warning and not try to rationalize it. As a woman, your intuitive sense is one of your greatest and strongest prowess. If you listen to it, you will hardly make wrong decisions.
Why do you think most times mothers are quick to warn their children about some certain things – friends, spouse-to-be, business etc.? They are not soothsayers, they may not have the gift of seeing into the future but they have honed their intuitive sense so much so that they are quick to sense it’s tingling and they heed its warning.
My mum did warn me countless times about my last relationship but I ignored her. I was hoping for her to be wrong instead she turned out right.
Due to our lack of connection with our own intuitive sense, we may not be quick to feel its tingling but mothers always know. Perhaps that is why someone said, “Women get psychic as they age. You never have to confess your sins to a woman over forty. They always know”.
As a woman, never forsake this special gift from God to you. It is strength to you. It is in your nature to love, nurture, trust, and believe in man. It is in your nature to watch their backs and care for them.
Remember, they say man is logical while woman is emotional but I say while man and woman are both. Sure man may be more in tune with his logical side than his emotional side, woman who is also both emotional and logical leans more towards her emotional side which is not a weakness but indeed, strength for her.
She doesn’t just see what is right in front of her…….She sees way beyond what is in front of her. While man thinks of how to counter an issue in one step, woman thinks about 5 times faster, how to counter that same issue in many steps ahead within the space of same allotted time.
“At times you have to leave the city of your comfort and go into the wilderness of your intuition. What you’ll discover will be wonderful. What you’ll discover is yourself.” ― Alan Alda
Man may feel apprehensive about a deal gone bad and may lament, feeling bitter and hurt about it. As woman consoles him (emotions at work), she at the same time, tries to come up with possible solutions not only on how to overcome the crisis but measures to take that would ensure man doesn’t have to suffer this loss again (logic and reasoning at work).
Woman is an indispensable and is a major necessity in the life of man. Our all-knowing God knew this and that is why He gave her as a gift to man. Woman is everything man is not. Using her emotions and sense of reasoning, she loves and cares for man.
Over and over again, she gets hurts due to the ingratitude of man but still she overlooks it. And this is where fortitude comes in. The strength of a woman is unfathomable.
No matter the amount of pain, hurts and torture she endures, she rearranges her life again and again while still firmly believing in love; believing in life and taking positive steps to become a better and stronger person.
She says, as this quote goes, “When I look back on my life, I see pain, mistakes and HEARTACHE. When I look in the mirror, I see strength, learned lessons and PRIDE IN MYSELF”.
Woman is strong and if she realizes this on time, so very good for her. She will live a happy and fun-filled life. She knows to take pride in herself and she tells herself “I am worthy of love” “I deserve better” “I choose to be happy”.
Trust your instincts always and save yourself heartaches. Do not take your bitter experiences as an excuse to be the evil queen or wicked step-mother. You can always start again. Just do yourself a favor and be the bigger person here.
Do not think hurting others because they hurt you would soothe your heart. It only makes you like them. That you have been hurt a couple of times is no reason for you to stop seeing the good in people. You are stronger than that and way better than they are.
Rise above your hurts and pains. Learn from your mistakes. Stop criticizing yourself. It’s too late to start afresh and start listening to your guts. As someone once said, “The brave may not live forever but the cautious do not live at all”.
You deserve better….so never again settle for less. You are a Princess! You are a Queen.
As said in the movie, THE PRINCESS DIARIES, “Courage isn’t the absence of fear but rather the judgement that something else is more important than fear”.
Every day of our lives, we would struggle with different choices we have to make as we make this journey through life. As life unfolds each passing moment and as you better get to know and understand yourself, give yourself a chance to truly live. Knowledge of who you really are and who you can be doesn’t come all at once…..you discover this in the course of life’s journey.
Never ruin your good and beautiful heart with judgments, condemnations and self-pity. I learnt from my mistakes and today I am a better person because of this. You too can become a bigger, better and stronger you if you choose to.
Always remember that you are and endeavor to remain the most DAZZLING, DASHING and DARING QUEEN ever.
Thank you so much for reading this piece. I sure hope you found it just as interesting and inspiring as was the intent.
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So tell me, have you ever ignored your gut feeling? What was your experience? How much has trusting your guts helped you? I would so love to read from you. Please be sure to leave your comments below.