Stay away from “STILL PEOPLE” who do not contribute to your growth and development as a person. It is better to have ONE good friend that helps your life improve than to be surrounded by a group of friends who have no idea who you really are or what you actually want out of life.
– Omoakhuana A. Imoisili
Let me begin by first apologizing to you my dear friends/readers for not putting up any post in the past couple of weeks. I have been working on an amazing book for you that is due to come out shortly. It promises to be a great book that you would love. I would talk more about this at the end of this post. For now let’s talk about 10 types of people you should cut off from and avoid in the coming year…..
So, I was having a conversation with a friend the other day and we got reminiscing on the good old days….growing up and all that. I asked her when last she heard from a couple of mutual friends we had back then and she said, “Omon, you know what? Life happened”.
Inquiring further, she explained that not all the friends we had back then are still in contact today. Some she deliberately let off while some others just seemed to get lost in the rush of life.
I looked at her and deeply listened as she spoke and I realized that indeed, LIFE TRULY HAPPENS. Hearing that she deliberately dropped some people off her contact list really amazed me as I told her, “Wow, that is one bold step you took”. I wasn’t really surprised because at one point in my life, I did same too but I was amazed she could do it.
You just realize as you grow older, there are some people that just need to be laid off because they really add no value to your life. They just prevent you from growing or developing and want you to just remain in their own level of thinking.
We are most times, exposed to different experiences in life. As we do, we become wiser and more mature especially in our thought process.
We begin to understand that we’ve only got one chance to make the most of this gift called LIFE and to do this, WE NEED TO GROW UP.
For you to make progress in life; for you to make ultimate success of your life, you need to stay away from some particular people not out of hatred or because you loathe them, but because you don’t wish to stay stagnant anymore. You now have focus and direction and have bigger dreams.
You realize now that life means a lot than you are settling for. You see the much potential you have and the great positive impact you can have on others….. You see the big difference you can create in the world.
2017 is less than two weeks away. This is the time when people begin to start making New Year resolutions. One of the lot or few you make should be to stay away from unhealthy kinds of people. Sure you cannot change the people around you but you sure can change your hanging out crowd and close pals.
Now what “STILL” people should you keep away from in the coming year and always?
10 “STILL PEOPLE” TO SEVERE TIES WITH.
- Still Ungrateful People: This is one very common trait amongst us, human beings. We are always ungrateful and always see the glass as half empty. There is hardly anything that we are satisfied with. Ingratitude is the crux of contemptibility. We simply fail to appreciate anything not even the gift of life.
Here’s a story I came across on http://www.srichinmoylibrary.com/mjhg-25
The Height Of Ingratitude
This is a story about ingratitude narrated by Winston Churchill. A little boy was playing on a pier. All of a sudden he fell off the pier into the water. He did not know how to swim and was in serious danger of drowning.
A very kind-hearted young soldier saw this, and he immediately jumped off the pier and swam towards the little boy. He put the boy on his shoulders and brought him back up to the pier quite safely. This young man saved the boy’s life.
The boy had been playing with other little boys, but his parents were nowhere to be found. The soldier drove the child to his parents’ home and left the boy there. The young man did not even think of receiving any reward. He was a very kind-hearted person, and he was extremely happy that he was able to save the life of this little boy.
A few days later, the boy’s parents came to look for the soldier. Everybody was helping them look for him, because they thought that the parents had come to give him a reward for saving their child. Finally they found the soldier working at the pier.
The parents approached the young man, and he immediately said, “You have to come to me? Please, please, I do not need any reward. I am so happy that I was able to save your child’s life. That is my greatest reward. You do not have to give me anything.”
The father and mother said, “No! We have not come here to give you anything. We have come to ask you for our son’s hat. Where is it?”
The young man was shocked. He said, “I tried to save your son’s life and I did save his life. Now you are asking me for his hat?”
“Yes,” replied the parents.
How powerful ingratitude can be! The young man had saved the life of the parent’s only child, and they were asking for his hat! Instead of giving the soldier a reward or even a simple ‘Thank you,’ they were asking for the boy’s hat!
They demanded, “What did you do with our son’s hat? What is wrong with you? We want to know where the hat is!”
This is the height of ingratitude.
If you were this soldier, what would your reaction be? How would you feel? What would go through your mind as you hear the parents say this to you?
Benjamin Franklin rightly said, “Most people return small favors, acknowledge medium ones and repay greater ones with ingratitude”.
Most people are like this. It is at times like this that a friend of mine would call such parents “ingrates”. Because of ingratitude, they never get more and this leads to the second group of people to stay away from.
- Still Complaining People: These are the type of people that you could call the nagging ones. They never tire of complaining about the unfairness of life or other people as much as they do nothing about it. It almost feels like it is their job to complain but they are not paid for it.
They are always angry and never see anything good about life. The most annoying thing is they don’t get off their behind to change the situation. Instead they just sit still and complain day in, day out.
This attitude I believe stems from the ingratitude mentioned above. These “complainants” as I would call them never make for good friends or company. They are always miserable to be with and they give nothing but negative vibes.
With them, life cannot be any good. There is always something to complain about. Complaints never put you in charge of situations but always makes you appear as a victim of circumstance.
Life can only be beautiful and make great meaning to the grateful and appreciative sort.
Zig Ziglar said, “The more you complain about your problems, the more problems you will have to complain about”.
- Still Hating People: There is nothing as vile and evil as hate. It corrupts your soul and gives out very dark aura. There is nothing friendly or happy about people that hate. All they think about is vengeance or hateful thoughts about others.
You don’t see them rejoice with those who are happy. They do all within their power to tear others down. They don’t grow and they don’t want others to grow.
Come to think of it, there is hardly any time to dislike people let alone hate them. It is so energy sapping and time wasting. You have better things to do with your time than to just hate people and the funny thing is that those who they hate are busy living happy lives and loving other people.
Really, people can hardly be bothered about hatred for them because they know it is as a result of feelings of insecurity. People hate because they can’t have what others have. They are jealous of them because they think they can’t even be half of what others are.
You don’t want to surround yourself with such negativity, trust me. You have nothing to gain from them except ruin your happiness and life.
Tony Gaskins said, “People hate you for one of three reasons, (1) They hate themselves (2) They want to be you (3) They see you as a threat. When you love yourself, you are incapable of hating anyone no matter what they’ve done”.
- Still Looking-for-faults People: These people are specialists in looking for faults in other people. They seek for faults in others as though there is a price to be won for it and the sad thing is that they hardly do anything about their own.
In fact, they do not even acknowledge faults of their own. They are the type to point the speck in another’s eyes while theirs is blinded by a big log.
They forget that when they point one finger at another, the remaining four fingers are pointing back at them. For the singular fact that they always look for the bad in others means they themselves are no good.
Someone did say, “Happy people continuously evaluate and improve themselves while unhappy people continuously evaluate others”.
Associating yourself with such people rubs off on you and makes you become them in no distant time. Cut off from them because as Ali Ibn Abi Talib (RA) did say, “The worst of our faults is our interest in other people’s faults”.
- Still Victim People: These are the people who specialize in pity-party. Life dealt them some blows and they just can’t seem to get over it. They lament over and over again and keep playing the victim card to get pity from other people.
These kind of people are very uninteresting and uninspiring to hang around with. They can weigh down your spirit with their pity stories and sad tales.
We have all been dealt blows in one way or the other from life but what makes us different is that we refused to stay down.
We got up and fought our way through whatever hassles we faced. We emerged victorious and that is what makes our stories inspiring and interesting.
Life is about try, try and try again not remaining down and waiting for others to always be in a sorrowful mood when they are around you. People who play the victim card are always sad and depressed and you can hardly find happiness in their company.
As Oprah Winfrey did say, “You are responsible for your own life. You can’t keep blaming someone else for your own dysfunction. Life is really about moving on”.
- Still Manipulating People: These kind of people are very good at making others go on guilt trips. They keep reminding them of that wrong they did and make them pay for it all their life. They always hound others and consistently play the victim card to make them do what they want.
They brag with the “non-existent power” they supposedly have because the people they manipulate keep giving in to their demands.
They think they have control at their finger tips and can get whatever they want, whenever they want.
They never think of how to better themselves but instead they are leeches and are parasitic. They are not a set to be associated with.
As an unknown author said, “Never let your loyalty make a fool of you”.
- Still Goalless and Aimless People: These people don’t have dreams and have not the slightest idea what to do with their lives. For some of them, life begins and end at the pub. They have no set goals to work towards.
They have small minds and are afraid to dream at all let alone dream big because they don’t think they can accomplish it. They are crumpled by fear of the unknown and don’t even bother setting out to try anything.
In their minds, they are not good enough so they can’t make anything of their lives. Instead, they want to get things from others.
They are also parasites and leeches too who always live off others because they have no means of livelihood.
Stay away from such people because as another unknown author did say, “When you start seeing your worth, you’ll find it harder to stay around people who don’t”.
- Still Gossip People: These are specialists in talking about others and the funny thing is they never see the good to talk about. They talk about the weakness of others and even add rumors to make the “story” more juicy and interesting when they are telling it.
They take gossip as though it were food. They live and feed on it all because they have no better use of their time. Be sure that you they gossip to would also be the topic of their discussion soon enough.
They dwell on the misfortunes of others and they are very hurtful too. They take it as a contract job to bare the hurts and pains of others to the world. Gossips are really mean.
Eleanor Roosevelt said, “Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people”.
Which category do you belong to?
- Still Negative Temperamental People: These are people who do not have control over their emotions. They turn on others as though they were the cause of whatever their issues are. They are volatile and being around them is like walking on egg shells.
You don’t know when you can just be you around them because they are quick to project their emotions and feelings onto you.
They are hardly fun to be around and they most times elicit pity from others. They could sometimes be plagued by mood-swings too.
Charlie Munger said, “You have to have a temperament to grab ideas and do sensible things. Most people don’t grab the right ideas or even know what to do with them”.
- Still Self-Absorbed People: These are the all-about-me kind of people. They are more or less narcissists and don’t believe in having real connections with other people. They are often times all about themselves and whenever you are with them, you always tend to feel alone.
You are only good for their self-esteem and nothing more. They show no interest in the activities of others. All they are about is themselves. You can’t have a healthy relationship with them because there is no connection.
In their company, they always go on and on about their issues and not even pause a second to ask how you or others are doing. They dominate the discussion and hardly lend a listening ear to others. It’s always about them, them, them.
Hans F Hansen said, “People that are important think about other people while people that think they are important think about themselves”.
All of these habits are so last season and no longer in vogue. You can’t go on hating people. This is the era of love, friendship but most importantly adding value to the world and you can’t do any of these if you are or associate with anyone with such terrible characters.
Life is what we make it and I can tell you it is more beautiful each passing day depending on how you see it. Stay away from these sets of people and you can see your life changing for the best.
You don’t need unhealthy or complicated relationships in your life. Life is already complex enough without us making it any more so.
These are 10 toxic groups of people to stay away from in the coming year. There are many more and I hope to cover a wider range in my next eBook coming out in January. For now, be sure to get my newly published book on A BEAUTIFUL MIND coming out this month.
It is the first step to that magical life transformation you want to have in the coming year and I guarantee that after reading this book, your perception of life would be positively altered and you would find the life of your dreams within your grasp.
Thank you so much for reading this. I hope you found it every bit informative, interesting and enlightening.
What other sets of people are unhealthy to keep in our company in the coming year? I would like to read your views and opinions in the comment box below.